Finding the meaning of life?

What do you think? What were we really meant to do in this world? Some of the ideas I have:

1. We are an alien experiment that went horribly wrong.

2. We are an alien video game developed like SIMS. Aliens get points whenever we do something right and when we do something wrong they lose points.

3. We don't exist !!

4. Our life has no meaning. We just get one chance here and that's it :-)

5. I don't have a clue what life means.

6. Who cares?

7. Wish I had a user's manual.

8. We are aliens and suffering from amnesia about what life is about.

Should Life Be Difficult?

What do you think? I think that life SHOULD be difficult. 

Why?

What does a problem do to your life? It makes your life difficult and makes you stressed and if you are brave enough to face it and conquer it, does it change your life? Will the next similar problem that comes along scare you as much? The answer is, "it depends".

For example, as a kid, remember the first time you sat on a bicycle and rode it. How scary was it? What about the second time? Was it better? What about the 3rd time? How easy is it to ride it now? Do you need to learn how to ride it even if you have not ridden a bike for years?

This is a simple example of how problems or challenges help you grow. Here is a simple process to meet and conquer problems:

• Understand the problem. This will include deeply thinking about it and finding the affect it has on your life. Is it affecting your performance or your life. If the problem has an impact on how you feel, or your interactions with others, it needs to be solved.
• Visualise life without the problem. Does it feel good to not have the problem any more? How does your life change afterwards. Visualise it, feel how you will feel.
• Now you have taken the first steps in determining that you have a problem and how it affects your life.
• The next steps concentrate on meeting the problem head on and finding a solution.

Some problems need long term attention, some need little attention. Sometimes, little problems have a bigger impact on your life than you think. For example, being disorganised may seem like a little problem, but it could have a greater impact on your credibility and your relationships.

• So the next step is to come up with alternatives. One example is to have a timeline for the solution to your problem. Its important to take MANAGEABLE baby steps to solve the problem. We all like big bang solutions. But big bang solutions to chronic problems or habits you have taken years to develop cannot be eradicated in a single day. So you have have short, medium and long term actions.     

• Lets take the example of being disorganised. Start with organising your desk which could be a manageable task. Aim to arrange it once a week. Every time you arrange it, admire how it feels and how good it feels to do it. Gain strength from it. Then move onto arranging little things like your car, your office workspace. Very soon you develop positive energy towards being organised and you gain more energy to start doing bigger things. Most of us fail because we try too hard too soon and expect results quickly. For example, a  pregnant mom accumulates weight at a high rate and after delivery, it takes more than a year to shed this weight. 

• Natural laws govern most of the things we do. Don't look for instant gratification.

I have tried and tested this method and it works. It takes a lot of energy to start, but most of the  energy is required to ADMIT that you have a problem.

Life Is Difficult

This is how Scott Peck starts off in his book - "The Road Less Travelled".  I heard about this book at a Neuro Linguistic Programming Play Shop by Omar Khan. I first got a few of his lectures on mp3 and it was awesome. I started reading this book last week and I have found it even more interesting than Frank Herberts' Dune :-).

It talks about how much our lives are influenced by our parents actions. It also talks about how we try to avoid problems thinking that these problems will go away. Instead, they become bigger and bigger, eating away at our personality and making us unhappy. He makes this point of how important problems are in helping us grow. 

The nicest definition is of Love;" Love is helping others grow". This is most meaningful definition of love I have personally ever heard.